JUNE BLUES

Thank God June is over. June marks the end of the 1st half of the year. A chance for a set of “2ND-HALF-of-the- Year’s-Resolutions”. The longer days elicit emotions of immortality. The promise of longevity causes us to make lofty plans. As the heat of summer grows to more than a hint we look to the rest of the year and make our pledges. We will be there for our loved ones, we will exercise more, we will eat less junk. We will make that doctor’s appointment. We will finally donate to that charity or finish that project. We will pay what we owe. We will make that call. We will mend that broken relationship. But what if you don’t have that much time? What if this is in fact your last summer. What if this is the last time to those words to their intended? “I”m sorry.” “I love you” “I didn’t mean to” “Please forgive me” “THANK YOU?”

I don’t mean to be so morbid but this June has been a difficult month.

One of my 5 year old son’s best friends lost his mother to cancer. How do you explain death to a child? 

A God fearing couple my wife and I have known for a while lost their 2 year old son. How do you console parents over the loss of a child? 

A friend, that gave my wife (then girlfriend) a place to stay when she was in college, lost her mother. How does one assuage the grief for a lost parent? 

What do all these have in common (besides happening in the month of June) the most common thread is a loss of time together. Time we thought we’d share really wasn’t there.

I want to share with you my 2nd Half-of-the-Year’s-Resolution. It is make the most of the time that I have NOW. I entreat you to join me. Join me and ….

Make every second a stage to say the positives in your heart. Cherish the minutes now. Life is too short, too unpredictable. 

Make every day a date. Make more memories with the moments.

WE DO NOT REMEMBER DAYS. WE REMEMBER MOMENTS – CESARE PEVESA

A close cousin lost his mother about 2 years ago. After the funeral, he spoke some sage words to me “Make sure you call your Mum, she wont always be there”. This made me reassess my interactions with her. The truth was that I expected my mum to live forever, while in reality every one of us is advancing to our departure from this earth. Some are just closer to the end than others. I think we act as though we have an infinite supply of time because it’s easier to put off till tomorrow those emotional exercises that call out to us today. 

It’s more convenient to put it on the “back burner”. We fear the risk of hurt or harm or seeming vulnerable but what is that in comparison to not seeking closure while our loved ones are around. We seem to forget the other side of the coin, we forget the immense comfort, the elation that we can cause. The bliss we can bring when we reach out and mend those bridges.

Emotions are tricky, unbridled nebulous entities in their natural state. They need to be reined in. We are only going to accomplish this if we spend time taming them. Yes this same time that is in such short supply.

WHILE WE ARE POSTPONING, LIFE SPEEDS BY – LUCIUS ANNAEUS SENECA 

Christians believe that death is not the end. We believe that we will see our loved ones again when this world passes away. It gives us hope, it gives us courage to keep waking up and getting out of bed whatever our loss. Some laugh and say we are fools deceiving ourselves but they cannot deny the strength this hope in Christ gives us.

WHAT IF WE ARE NOT DECEIVING OURSELVES? 

Would you rather have hope or despair? The former gives us strength to keep on going, the later ebbs what strength you have left and causes you to wither away. 

AND NOW, DEAR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, WE WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THE BELIEVERS WHO HAVE DIED SO YOU WILL NOT GRIEVE LIKE PEOPLE WHO HAVE NO HOPE. –1 THESSALONIANS 4:13 NLT

FOR SINCE WE BELIEVE THAT JESUS DIED AND WAS RAISED TO LIFE AGAIN, WE ALSO BELIEVE THAT WHEN JESUS RETURNS, GOD WILL BRING BACK WITH HIM THE BELIEVERS WHO HAVE DIED- 1 THESSALONIANS 4:14 NLT

IT WILL HAPPEN IN A MOMENT, IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE, WHEN THE LAST TRUMPET IS BLOWN. FOR WHEN THE TRUMPET SOUNDS, THOSE WHO HAVE DIED WILL BE RAISED TO LIVE FOREVER. AND WE WHO ARE LIVING WILL ALSO BE TRANSFORMED –  1 CORINTHIANS 15:52 NLT

While we may recover from loss faster than others without HOPE, we are not immune to it’s emotional toll. We must all pay that price. Sometimes this premium seems insurmountable. It is at such times, just when our heart seems to have passed it’s breaking point, Jesus carries us through. He bridges the gaps. He cries with us. He cares for us more than words can convey. He is both the source and substance of our hope. He is wellspring of our courage. 

COURAGE IS LIKE LOVE; IT MUST HAVE HOPE FOR NOURISHMENT – NAPOLEON BONAPARTE

This mid-year I don’t know what sorrows burden you. Are you in that dark tunnel of loss?  I want to extend out an invitation. Give your baggage to one who can carry it. Your anxieties, your grievances, your hopes and fears will find no better place of solace than on the shoulders of Jesus. He reaches out to you in with nail pierced hands, saying… “I know… I know. Come it gets better”

If however this mid-year finds you at a pinnacle, surrounded by loved ones, friends and good fortune. I urge you to stop that mad rush to get to the future and enjoy the present with the ones whom you hold dear. 

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