I crashed my backup drive! 12 years of pictures trapped on a failed external drive. Despair took on a new meaning for me. When shutting down and restarting my computer didn’t work, I quickly advanced to despondency and then yes depression (The 3-Ds). Geek Squad charged a $450 non-refundable fee to “evaluate” the drive and that was the cheaper version. The other “data recovery company” wanted $1500. It was before a family vacation so I just left it all on the back burner.
During that trip my mind keep going back to the lost files. Wedding pictures, baby pictures, travel photography pictures, memories perhaps a heirloom to leave. At the most inconvenient of times the 3-Ds would surface. I finally faced the fact, I may not be getting back my lost memories!
I came up with 2 possible paths; either borrow money or start making new memories to replace the lost. It wasn’t long until I had images to rival the ones I had lost, It seemed as though in trying to recapture the past, I created a new present with improved variations. Apparently all those hours spent trying to get poses and facial expressions helped to improve my pictures. I found that I had added to my repertoire. I could get smiles faster and poses easier than before. I would never have realized this if I hadn’t been “pushed” out by inconveniences into my new circumstances. I had to be ejected from my comfort zone into a discomfort zone.
We might not like to admit it but discomfort causes us to develop. How many master pieces do you know that started out as mistakes? I can think of a few. 3M and post-it notes? The Leaning Tower of Pisa? The Sistine Chapel paintings (Michaelanglo wasn’t even a painter)?
Most never think to ask what can we do with the hand that life has dealt us? We are too busy trying to hide our mistakes. We fear ridicule and rejection so much that it cripples whatever creativity is on our inside.
What if these are masterful interruptions meant to stir us away from the paths of mediocrity into greatness? Would a little temporary discomfort or pain of loss or perhaps embarrassment of discovery be worth the immense fulfillment on the other side? Do we really truncate the track to triumph by hiding our errors and refusing to acknowledge mistakes?
What mistakes plague you now? What disappointments and loss are you dealing with currently? What are you struggling with this instant? What is the saying “every cloud has a sliver lining”? Well? Can you see it? Is the glass half full or half empty? Is the fray you are in right now the way to a great pay off?
“MISMANAGED SUCCESS IS THE LEADING CAUSE OF FAILURE. WELL MANAGED FAILURE IS THE LEADING CAUSE OF SUCCESS” – MARK BATTERSON
- Perspective. We don’t have a bird’s eye view of how this issue or circumstance relates to the grand scheme of events. Most of us have a bug’s eye view and see obstacles as insurmountable. We can’t see how this disappointment can possibly lead to a good outcome. We have become too myopic in our view. Too narrow in our estimation of possibilities. We have stopped dreaming. You can’t win with a narrow perspective. You can’t convert mistakes to masterpieces by looking at things from only one angle. Walk around the problem or issue; look from the left and then from the right. Climb a ladder and look down on it. Get on the floor and look up.
THE SUCCESSFUL MAN WILL PROFIT FROM HIS MISTAKES AND TRY AGAIN IN A DIFFERENT WAY – DALE CARNEGIE
- Pride. We can’t bear to let anyone see us fail at anything. It’s interesting how culture has changed, back then if you weren’t making mistakes it meant you weren’t learning, you weren’t growing in mastery by trying out new things. Everyone believes the story of the overnight success, without questioning the episodes of rejection or looking for the times of midnight toil. Movies spend a few short scenes showing the protagonist studying, exercising, or doing some type of preparation and in the next scene BAM! They pass with flying colors or win first place. Unfortunately it’s not like that in the real world, so the first rejection knocks us out of the saddle. We run and hide, egos wounded and woebegone demeanors. Why do we believe we can start from the top. That makes no “gravitational” sense. Only if you are planning on falling down. To get to the top, to get to your masterpiece you must start at the bottom and work your way up. Build a solid foundation and stack it. This quote speaks to the heart of this issue. THE ONLY WAY TO GET TO GREAT IS THROUGH BAD. So why are we so ashamed of our failures?
EXPERIENCE IS SIMPLY THE NAME WE GIVE OUR MISTAKES – OSCAR WILDE
- Perseverance ( or persistence) where has our mettle gone? What happened to grit? What happened to staying power? I think this is a nemesis of the 21st century. Technology and innovation has gotten us to this place where time is no longer dealt with in hours but nano-seconds. Our minds have shifted to expecting instant guerdon on every enquiry. It was only a short 10 years ago that dial up was considered the standard in internet speeds now I don’t know anyone who still uses it. We are are no longer the supersonic generation but more like the Faster-Than-Light (FTL) generation. Don’t get me wrong I love that I can drive to work instead of riding a horse. I think rice cookers should be admitted into heaven also but what this has done is deflate our balloons of persistence and fog up our perseverance dials. We have become whiners. I had to give an army veteran a flu shot. I started to cajole and feather him up and he told me quite amicably “Look, Stan I’m a vet I was shot 10 times there’s nothing your going to do to me now that I haven’t endured worse”. I shut up, gave him the shot and thanked him for his service. The rest of that day, I ruminated on what he said and wondered how all my struggles paled in comparison.
What about you? What mistakes are you beating yourself over? I dare you to look at them again, they look really bad right now but look at them from God’s perspective and not your pride or apathy. He can turn your hurt now into healing for you and others? Your mistakes are His ingredients for MASTERPIECES.
Can you remember when a disappointment turned out to be a good thing in the long run? Let’s hear about it.
GOD USES PEOPLE WHO FAIL ‘CAUSE THERE AREN’T ANY OTHER KIND AROUND – JOHN C MAXWELL