Searching for Our INTREPID selves
I hate being afraid. Are you like me? Do you cringe when you hear a loud sound? Does your stomach tighten in knots when you hear a noise you can’t identify? What about dark forbidding alleys? Or are your phobias more ethereal? You can’t put your finger on it but you just know that something is wrong. Fear keeps us from making mistakes, but this means it keeps us from taking risks
One of the reasons fiction appeals to us, is that we can escape our angst, if only for a few hours and become the protagonist in the story. The hero who never makes any mistakes. Who always says only the right things, takes all the risks and saves the day. This hero who always finds a way to victory, who always comes out unscathed, bears a striking resemblance to us, in our minds eye. Yes for those few hours we become the INTREPID version of ourselves. Unfortunately the credits at the end of the movie, breaks the hypnosis and brings us back to reality, with the disappointments and betrayals. The consequences of inadequate decisions makes us want to protect ourselves. We react in fear or more accurately we FAIL to act in FEAR.
Fear has such an elusive nature, it’s so evanescent, most times we don’t even realize that we are reacting in fear. When we snap at that receptionist, when the innocuous question from our kids is met with a exaggerated response, is it solely anger or has some fear insidiously crept in?
THE ONLY THING WE HAVE TO FEAR IS FEAR ITSELF ~ Franklin D Roosevelt
Psychologists claim we are born with only 2 fears, the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned. Well humanity has been busy learning new ones. Check out The Phobia List. (www.phobialist.com) and see how far we have come.
My oldest son doesn’t like dark theaters. It doesn’t matter if its a movie or a church service; As soon as you dim the lights, he wants out. I can remember seeing Zotopia with him, he had done well so far enjoying the story over the dimmed lights but when it got to the jungle scene with the cougar giving chase it was too much for him. He wanted out. “Dad can we leave NOW!!!”. Unfortunately I wasn’t about to lose my ticket money. I had him sit with me till the movie ended. Interestingly when we got home, he began bragging to his mum and cousins about how awesome the movie was.
Isn’t it the same for adults. We criticize our presentation notes but enjoy the accolades of a successful presentation. We talk ourselves out of unfamiliar endeavors but are amazed at some of outcomes from the enterprises we attempt.
IF YOU WANT TO CONQUER FEAR DON’T SIT AT HOME AND THINK ABOUT IT. GO OUT AND GET BUSY ~ Dale Carnegie
It would seem that those periods of braving our fears often mirror our most memorable times, those eras of facing our fears superimpose periods of immense personal growth and development.
So what do we do with this myriad of fears incapacitating us? How do we stand against this growing list of destiny killers? How do we halt the progress paralysis?
We take the next step! We do something anyways!
We take a look at the folder. We open up the letter. We pick up the phone. We make a list. We take the next step
FAITH IS TAKING THE FIRST STEP BEFORE GOD REVEALS THE THE SECOND STEP ~ Mark Batterson
While the antidote to fear is courage. We build courage one day at a time by facing our fears. We build courage by taking one step forward despite the wobbly knees underneath. The small victories create a domino effect. So let your next steps take you outside your comfort zone. Risk the shame for the gain, gamble with the ridicule and the rewards, till the sting of failure is lost on you, then you will find your INTREPID SELF. The real hero/heroine of this story.
I’ll be searching with you also because like you, I HATE BEING AFRAID.
FOR GOD HAS NOT GIVEN US A SPIRIT OF FEAR AND TIMIDITY, BUT OF POWER LOVE AND SELF-DISCIPLINE. 1 TIMOTHY 1:7